Romantic breakups can be hard on anyone, but our reactions to breakups can vary quite a bit. The damage has actually impacted my health & well being so severely Ive collapsed three times since January 2016 and each time I was admitted to Hospital. Ive tried the no contact, only to have him show up at my door. He came with rage and the intent to put fear in me, like always before.Those days of showing any kind of kindness, had long been gonelong before I left. Wants to be taken care of while he entertains at the bar. He tried his best to damage my confidence and self esteem but I got out just soon enough. By a stroke of luck, we ended up having to move to a city. Pointed a gun at him. My ex husband comes to the airport and doesnt take his eyes of my son. I contacted him and he told me what to do and i did it then he did a (return Love spell) for me. He had not dealt with our seperation and divorce, at all. In September 2014 I knew the damage was very bad because it was constantly manifesting itself in many ways on an almost daily basis. Do the right thing and look after her. [Read: 13 ways you can manipulate a narcissist and hurt them] #5 Treat them how they treat you. Hes with someone else now and so in love. I am so lost sad and frankly scared for mental state I have heard much the last few days as his new victim is in Mexico with him at his moms house. I start to realize he never lets me see him on his phone or if i tuch it he would freak out. I cut him off for a couple of months but then got weak when he sent me a pic of a key chain I had bought him. He lied right to my face and thought I would buy into his BS. They are here to kill, steal and destroy and sadly, we are the ones left broken hearted (because we are good hearted people) and trying to pick up the pieces of our lives. Narcissists turn on the charm or wrench sympathy from your heart as you break up with them. They even manipulate you to believe that you are a drama queen or some kind of a very sensitive person. What he said is insignificant (as you know, he is NOT a credible source to judge ANYONE, therefore his opinion does not matter). leaving he child with unvetted adult no child should be introduced to a new relationship or multiple its unsettling for baby and I consistent care from dad as either parent needs to devote the full attention to child. He was engaged when we met & I had no idea. And he and him where together now allan Denies it. He was sweet & gentle and I wanted to know more about this tall drink of water. God keep us from such people is all i can say. We started seeing each other a couple days a week; one night he asked me to go with him on his rig a couple hours away. I spent alot of time alone, when he came home he would eat, shower and fall asleep then a few hours later he would be on the road again and again I would be alone. Mine absolutely couldnt have cared less. What wowed me was that my wife, fell for him and decided to put at stake everything we have fought and worked for all those 14 years. We met each other families and everyone told us we were perfect for each other. He wasnt raised in a normal fam. Ill be 49 and Im finally at peace and I have my childrens love. I found a list with the many girls names. he threatens to not take our son now 9 months at weekends for me to work. I than left, and he started full pursuit again. Listen to me on this , love had never been cheap and never will be its not in the air as we welcome everyone by curiosity as someone should be our one . he came knocking on my door one night and I called 911. Either they won't let you go without a fight, or they will discard you without looking back . To my amazement being naive that these people exist now I have made it my mission to understand it for my own peace of mind. Being a whore ? Always remember it is NOT your pathology; its their pathology, but they will try to make you crazy if you remain their supply. He d already had it set up; I fell apart after I told her to get off my property. And it didnt work. It went on for 3 weeks until the final incident was when he had lied to a member of the family and accused me of sleeping with another family member who happened to be his father and a minister. Narcs supporting and colluding with narcs. I said dont you see how totally disrespectful that is, how could you? I was a mess. He blocked ME months ago and I never blew up his phone. Mind you its 4 blocks away from his house I refuse. This is why I have a problem with pro-life, where are those people today? he really believe he get full custody after doing what he did to me.but I focused fully on our daughter.and myself and they comeback when you doing good. Anyway, so he devalued and discarded me at 8 months pregnant. He uses everything against me, makes threats, twists stories around to make himself look good, in the process of baiting in his next Victim. Stop minimizing what we have gone through. I was married 8 years then divorced. The way he conducted himself after i left him, well..it showed his mental problems clearly. The most concise summary of what Ill be portraying here comes from the Psychodynamic Diagnostic Manual (2006), which states: Although some narcissistic children and adolescents seem 'spoiled and entitled [in other words, were raised to feel and act "privileged" through regularly being overindulged and told they were special], most are clearly defending against feelings of low self-esteem and are trying to avoid shame and humiliation.". Well I end tto make sure he comes over says. My only question is how do you go about getting them out if you live together? ? And then, out of the Ns mouth, You never liked me! No, I liked the fake pretend imaginary person you made up that was almost believable until.and by the way, whoever you are, Mr. Hyde, you dont like you so how the hell do you see it possible for me too? Overall, they are effective in safeguarding against extreme vulnerability, but further exploring their psychological armor demonstrates that their defenses are ultimately counterproductive. Me and my boyfriend were seriously in love for six years and we were planning to get married but one day he came to my house and told me he was no longer interested in our relationship simply because he was dating another rich lady who promise to buy him a car and to sponsor their wedding. so he can never say he never had a chance to be a dad. old. So after my daughter told me that tonight, I texted him and told him to come get his car and the rest of his belongings out of my yard. Over time they start to devalue you and in doing so, eliminate your ability to make them feel better about themselves. He said : I need to eat! childs sake. Depression and anxiety. Within about 4 to 5 months of meeting her I knew my health & well being was starting to be negatively impacted by her presence in my life. It is terrible. It has effected my relationship with my daughter. A deep desire to control everything (environment, friends, spouse, workmates, neighbors, etc.) TMI and he never told me about that or her. Once youre out of the relationship, stay out and dont look back. he certainly doesnt take a break-up normal, no..it has to be something done about it..she has to pay for it! Shitshows at the bar, parking lots, in the car. He too was in middle of divorce. I cried and cried and she just got move violent. Gratitude, like remorse, is another emotion that is perceived as a sign of weakness by people who are narcissistic. Disrespectful, continued living, other women all the time. My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago. Mine has a New Supply, he started cheating with her just before we broke up. But for you, as a child of god you just need to rely on him to help you through. Your narcissistic ex isnt capable of caring about you, only about how you make them feel. Apart from the fact I can no longer drive, what I find to be very depressing is it strongly appears a fair amount of the psychological damage is permanent. Compared to typical textbook narcissists, the coverts are even scarier because they have even less empathy, feel more entitled, and are even more passive-aggressive. Nothing. This has gone on now for this period of time, in the mean time I worked very hard on focusing on my own life. If you want to make a narcissist feel bad, then dish them a taste of their own medicine. LeaveANarc, yes I do understand, though my discard of him just happened. Maybe she will strive for happiness, and leave her drug alone? I was fortunate to have a couple of people in my life male and female to point this out to me , and that in itself was truly a blessing and could very well have kept me alive to see better days ; for there were days Which I truly felt that it would be best if my life would just end! He helped me with a make the woman i promised my life time to on the day of our wedding come back to me. I was so alone and wanted to die..thankfully the lord showed me the answer . I found out about another woman and didnt move in with him. That is virtually impossible. She almost had me convinced it was me responsible. Its almost a year since Ive had those rings and we have never discussed the wedding. i will drop his email address in case you are passing through the same situation so you can contact him on (((((Ekpentemple at gmail. Love empathy compassion, a conscience .making them retarded psychopaths who self destruct over their selfishness, self love, low self esteem. Hed been staying with her on those disappearing times and when he was supposedly traveling on his truck overnight. I caved. She sounds like a compassionate woman with a bit of vulnerability. He wont take care of his own child or provide. More often, the narcissist will go silent for some period of time, and then return as if nothing happened. empathetic people will try to justify their way by looking at their past. Just recently he told me he left my son in the care of some lady he never met, didnt know her last name or address, and I found that it was one of his girlfriends. So I told her its time for us to consider preparing the divorce papers and that Im seeing someone new. Every. Communicating with a narcissist gives them power, so take it away. He went silent immediately. I am unemployed, living with a friend and he depleted my account. He like all the other NPD will stop at NOTHING to keep confusion going. They might date someone who is "better" than you to trigger your insecurities. Then 60 daysnothing. Before I was pregnant, he once rang my doorbell at 11pm, my bestie/roomy (a guy) and I were watching tv and wondering who the hell is ringing the doorbell this late. I became resentful and tried talking to him that the relationship is in trouble. I used to be a lively person but I feel that part of me was gradually vanishing. I am now healing from this monster and wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy. Superior and entitled Attention-seeking Perfectionist Controlling Irresponsible Lack of boundaries Lack of empathy Everything is a threat Emotional reasoning Split personalities Fear of rejection Constant . They have no conscience. Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D., is the author of Paradoxical Strategies in Psychotherapy and The Vision of Melville and Conrad. Her self esteem is lacking and she has depression and has had suicidal ideations more than once.. Especially if I have to pay child support. Basically I feel like he will always have a foothold in my life, because of my son, I feel he planned this entire situation strategically, and I feel so lost, alone, and empty that Im deeply afraid that he will use my son to destroy me forever. I feel so Hurt confused and throw away used Many people say hes not done with me Even if he has something new to use. It is a common tactic to show that they are fine without you. He adores the teacher role and he adores all the attention from all the girls smsing him and pleading him to meet. I mark on my calendar and high five a few co-workers every so often. They are psychopaths. Im new, and alone. And it is hard, but so necessary as I saw him gettun g worse and worse. Thanks to a spell caster called High Priest OLORUN which i met online. It involves showing off and behaving charmingly to gain the admiration of others. 3. If you were the one that initiated the breakup, your narcissistic partner is probably brimming with rage. I already have one of those! And he became very angry. Its been over a week since we broke up but this is only my second day without hearing from them. Hes been getting away with his behavior for so long, but now my kids see it also and they are back in my life again and for what it is worth; this is an experience. I used to write her every now and than, but now I really want to email her one last time since she is giving me the silent treatment.
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